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September 25, 2018

In animal psychology, learned helplessness is identified as a behavior that occurs when an animal is repeatedly subjected to an aversive stimulus that it cannot escape (read about the experiment here). Eventually, the animal will stop trying to avoid the stimulus and b...

April 21, 2018

Apparently, even when parents argue “in private,” or if they don’t argue but act coldly towards one another, children as young as six months old can sense that something is wrong and show physical/emotional responses to it. When measuring physical signs of stress on ch...

April 5, 2018

They are at that age when they think they know enough to make their own decisions, which isn't true. But the more we tell them (with words or behavior) that they aren't ready yet, the more they want to prove us wrong. Since they don't understand that the be...

February 3, 2018

The Familism's model of raising a child within a familiar community has emotional and psychological benefits. For example, the child feels that they have an extended support network, which likely impacts their openness to new challenges, increasing their self-confi...

December 4, 2017

A couple of weeks ago we discussed bullying and the strategies used by schools to try to prevent it. One of the approaches used is “teaching children to care.” In other words, to teach them empathy. As we know, empathy is more of an experiential than an intellectual le...

November 27, 2017

Spanking is a very controversial topic. I’ve had friends say that the reason our kids are the way they are these days – misbehaving, entitled, etc. – is that we aren't allowed to physically punish them anymore, as we used to be in the good old days. Others believe...

November 22, 2017

Despite our efforts, the rates of depression, self-harm, and anxiety among young teens are at unprecedented levels. And it isn't that the problems that they face today weren't there years ago. These kids just seem less resilient and more fragile. And, as is Ame...

November 14, 2017

According to the National Association of School Psychologists, in 2003 160,000 students per day stayed home because of bullying. Plus, one in every four students says they’d been bullied at school in the last 12 months. Also, one in 20 did not go to school in the past...

November 8, 2017

There is a general misconception that every woman is born to be a mother. They tell us that we have a maternal instinct that is triggered by pregnancy. With the maternal instinct comes maternal love, a feeling that would make us naturally inclined to put our child abov...

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